Have you ever met a great guy, who was completely loveable (fun, playful, charming, smart, and more) but then– as soon as there was a conflict, or a crisis of some kind – he let you down?
Maybe you tried to tell him what you needed, or you gave him another chance to make things right, but then – as soon as you hoped he’d show up for you and do what he should – he didn’t, yet again?
And when this happened, you couldn’t help but blame yourself. Did you do or say something wrong to make him flake out? Did he not love you as much as you thought he did? Was it him or was it you?
Sadly, I think we’ve all known men who’ve made us question ourselves like that…
Maybe you’ve known a man who didn’t initially seem as “exciting” as the first guy (he wasn’t as fun, playful, charming, or smart) and yet – time and again, he always came through? He didn’t bail when things got tough, he was thoughtful of your feelings, and he went out of his way to take care of you?
Why is it so much easier to fall in love with the first guy, when clearly you’d have a much better relationship (and life!) with the second guy?
Here’s the thing: There are qualities that make a man loveable so he’ll seem like someone you should let into your life, but that don’t mean he can do the job of being a good partner.
And there are qualities that make a man solid, stable, dependable, loyal, and generous – but that don’t necessarily make him charismatic, sexy or fun.
What we all want is that adorable man we can’t help but fall in love with, who we can also completely trust to always do what we need him to do.
In other words, we want a man with both a fantastic personality and the capacity to be a full partner.
The man who will make us laugh when we’ve had a bad day at work… A man who will cook dinner AND do the dishes when we have a headache… A man who will ask, “Are you doing ok?” when he sees that worried look in our eye. We want a man who doesn’t just want us and adore us, but who thinks our happiness is just as important as his own, and isn’t too weak or afraid to be the man we need him to be.
Ah… that is the man who would truly make life worth living for. (Cue the violins and fireworks about now).
– and your own, and that’s the thing you need to know even more than your compatibility with a man. Because “Relationship Capacity” uncovers the degree to which either of you can show up – behaviorally and emotionally – for anyone.
It determines if a man is a “relationship” guy – sensitive, generous, kind, loving, etc. enough to DO relationships and be GOOD at love.
This is one of my cornerstone teachings, one of what I call “The Five Critical Keys To Love” that are ALL needed for a relationship to “go the distance.”
For years, I’ve been able to offer my private coaching clients this information when reading their astrology charts and that of the men in their lives, but I’ve never been able to offer an instant report about it all… until now.
So it’s the first step… and should be considered before your Relationship Compatibility (which is one of the other “Five Critical Keys to Love”).
You see, a person with great “Relationship Capacity” to give and receive healthy love will be able to have a pretty darn good relationship even with a partner with just so-so compatibility…
While someone else with impossibly low “Relationship Capacity” will likely have a terrible relationship even with a partner who is very compatible with them.
When two people of high “Relationship Capacity” come together, most of the work is already done, and the love can just flow… Ahhh…
So as much as I LOVE the techniques of Vedic astrology to reveal “Relationship Compatibility,” I’m even more excited about the insights it reveals about Capacity.
(Because you can be perfectly compatible with a guy who’s insecure, depressed, struggling with an addiction, or just a big jerk, making you wish you didn’t laugh at all the same things, talk easily for hours, and have toe-curling chemistry – because that’s what got you hooked on him in the first place!)
It takes a while to get to know someone. And even a man with a lot of “issues” can fool you for way too long, especially if he’s got a “winning” personality and is otherwise successful.
And to make matters worse, so often we women blame ourselves, thinking “If he really loved me… he’d be there for me. He’d do what I want him to do if he cared…”
So we knock ourselves out to “win” his love, not recognizing that his “bad boy” or weak behaviors have nothing to do with us… and that he’d likely be that way with anyone.
(Think Jesse James and Sandra Bullock here… or Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver… or Tiger Woods and his wife… If those women couldn’t “tame” those men, who could? The answer? No one…)
If you’re looking to hire a professional piano player – you’d better give the job to a man who has all ten fingers, because a man with only four fingers is NEVER going to be able to play Beethoven (at least not the way Beethoven intended), as much as he may LOVE the music of Beethoven.
Thinking a man with poor Relationship Capacity would treat you well if he really loved you, is the same idea.
A man’s Capacity can improve with time, effort and awareness, but it’s something only he can do for himself by himself, and why it’s so cliche but true – that you can’t change a man.
What about Your Relationship Capacity?
Then there are women who – when they connect with a great guy, get scared and push him away by being clingy, controlling, unavailable, jealous, and more.
Just like with men, there are two issues going on that are so important for you to understand.
One has to do with how approachable and attractive you are to men – how easygoing, fun, friendly, charming, playful, confident, and more..
While the other has to do with how open-hearted you are, and how much you let love in.
It’s one thing to have an attractive personality that enables you to meet men in the first place, and another to have an open heart that allows you to become close to them and treat them well.
And it’s the combination of both that reveals your Relationship Capacity.
The good news is that your Capacity is not written in stone – with support, maturity, and the right self-care, we can vastly improve our capacity to love and be loved. We just need to understand what’s going on.
These techniques, though ancient, are especially needed and relevant at a time such as ours, when society no longer has as much support to ensure relationships can last. The breakdown of communities, the family structure, rampant divorce and loneliness have made it more necessary than ever to turn to tried-and-true wisdom for help.
Here’s how it works… In everyone’s astrology chart, there are “benefic” or “good guy” planets that help us to be happy and kind, affectionate and fun, and to enjoy the good things that life brings us. The “good guys” include:
Saturn, the planet of depression, fear, perfectionism, and low self-esteem
Mars, the planet of aggression, ambition, logic, independence, and anger
Rahu, a.k.a. the “North Node of the Moon,” the indicator of deception, addiction, inconsistency, and insensitivity
Ketu, a.k.a. the “South Node of the Moon,” the indicator of instability, chaos, confusion, weakness, and uncertainty
The Sun, which, while bringing some good qualities like steadfastness and strength, can bring forward the qualities of inflexibility and dominance
The techniques for Capacity look to see if more “good guy” or “bad guy” planets are influencing your or your man’s personality (making HIM more of a “good guy” or “bad guy” too), and to what extent… and then what to do about it all.
And then, after several pages of detail all about him and his ways of being and behaving, it sums it all up, and tells you if he is a man who:
- Is easy to love and does the right thing – a man to follow anywhere…
- Is easy to love but average at doing what’s right – a man who can be a great partner
- Is easy to love but does the wrong thing – a man who women easily fall for, but who requires patience and understanding from the right woman (and even then she might just find she never gets what she needs)…
- Has an average personality but does the right thing – an excellent partner, though not as exciting as some men
- Has a difficult personality but does the right thing – a man who can give you a great life as long as you are very compatible with him and strong and confident within yourself
- Has a difficult personality but is average at doing the right thing – a difficult man who is probably not worth it, but you can try if you really love him
- Has a difficult personality and does the wrong thing – this is the guy you (and every woman) should run from quickly!
It outlines what planets make you attractive to a man, and what planets close your heart to love, what celestial energies possibly making you hide your true self or pretend to be what you’re not, and if your heart is more open or closed… and, again, what to do about it all.
First, I ran a report on one of my clients, who has been wildly successful with men her whole life – that is, when it comes to meeting them. She’s had a hard time PICKING the right man, and accepted poor treatment from men when she was younger, and was intensely emotional about it all, but has (fortunately) become much more in touch with herself and able to make healthy choices. And, no kidding, all of that was in her report.
Rahu,
For example, you can feel so strongly about a man one moment that nothing else matters. While the next moment, you can get sad about something and feel so depressed that your love for that man is forgotten and the only thing that matters is your immediate need to escape the depression. Simply put, your emotions are just so intense that life can be like a ship in a storm, and that includes your love life.
I also ran a report for another client who is an extremely successful workaholic, with strong opinions and a bit too much of… what should I call it? Spirit.
Most of the men in her life have left her, citing her independence, busy schedule, and hard-headedness as the main reasons why.
Check out this excerpt from her report:
Saturn,
Jupiter,
You will appear very personable and approachable to most men. Men will easily feel comfortable around you and come to like you quickly. It will be easy to find areas of mutual interest with any healthy man that you meet. If things with a man feel awkward at first, then he is probably suffering from some insecurity and may not be the best choice for you. With your personality, friendship should bloom quite quickly with any worthwhile man that you meet.
Check it out:
The Waning Moon,
Ketu,
This Man,
Another long-time client has been blissfully happy with her serious boyfriend for years. As soon as they got together, he made every effort to make her happy and knock himself out to please her, even moving to another state to be near her. Here’s one way the stars are blessing his chart for love:
The Sun,
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And I’ll say it again: please don’t think a man doesn’t love you or isn’t good to you because of something wrong with you, when it’s his own weakness or limitation that’s to blame!
If you’ve knocked yourself out to be “perfect” and have done everything you can think of to make your relationships work but they haven’t, maybe these reports will provide an insight you’ve never known before that’s the key to it all.
And if you have a pattern of always being with a certain kind of man (the kind that doesn’t stick around for long, or bails as soon as the going gets rough) maybe these reports will help you see why at last.
Maybe you can stop blaming yourself, and instead have the tools at your disposal to hold out for a guy who can be what you need.
You owe it to yourself to find out!
I can’t wait to hear what you think…
And as ever – may God and His planets and stars, shower you with (Capable) love!
Carol Allen
As for how to ask a man his birth time, I have a simple trick that works quite well if he knows it… enabling you to ask him without him thinking you’re doing something as weird as consulting astrology! Say to him, “I’ve heard if you’re born in the morning you’ll be a morning person, but if you’re born at night you’ll be a night person. Does that work for you?” If he knows his birth time, he’ll likely come right out and say it. If not, he may have to order his birth information as well – see above for how he can do that. (This is a mere wives’ tale and has nothing whatsoever to do with being able to “tell” his birth time – it’s just a trick to get him to tell it to you, so please don’t try to guess his birth time from this suggestion.)